Why Women Crave Volume & What It’s Really Telling You…
It’s Not Really About Volume
A love note to the woman craving her beauty back
We think it is.
We wish we had it—effortlessly.
We imagine that if we just had that bounce, that fullness… maybe we’d love how we feel about ourselves again.
But here’s the truth no one tells you:
It’s not really about volume at all.
It’s about craving to feel beautiful again.
To reconnect with the parts of ourselves that feel like they’ve quietly faded over time.
It’s about the gray hairs peeking through too soon, the mornings that feel rushed, the reflection in the mirror we sometimes avoid. It’s the whisper of wanting to feel radiant again… like we used to.
And that’s okay.
It’s more than okay—it’s deeply human.
When I turned thirty-five, something shifted.
I didn’t expect to feel so different in my own skin. But the aging signs came fast—overnight, it seemed—and I found myself picking apart my hair, feeling off in my body, wondering where my glow had gone.
And yes… I’m a hairstylist. Even I have these moments with my hair,
But here’s what I’ve learned—both from personal experience and from the hundreds of women who sit in my chair:
Wanting volume is often a sign that we’re longing to reconnect with ourselves.
To feel confident.
To feel seen.
To feel beautiful in our own skin.
So here’s the honest truth:
Natural, voluminous hair is rare.
Most women don’t have it. And even the ones who do? They still struggle with styling it, managing it, feeling overwhelmed with the maintenance and weight.
So instead of chasing a fantasy, what if we lean into loving what we have?
What if we shifted the focus from “fixing” our hair… to falling in love with caring for ourselves?
Let’s start there.
Let’s look at the rituals we’re creating in our daily life:
Are you nourishing your body?
Are you caring for your skin and hair with intention?
Are you creating time to slow down and soften?
Because most of the time, when women say they’re desperate for volume—it’s not really about hair. It’s about feeling lost in the busyness of life. It’s about not having time to get ready, not feeling like themselves, not recognizing who’s in the mirror anymore.
This isn’t about being high-maintenance.
This is about showing your body and soul that you care.
If you're craving volume...
It's time to step into your Self-Care Era
Not the picture-perfect, curated one.
The real one. The nourishing one. The one that makes you fall back in love with how you feel, not just how you look.
Self-Care Habits I Lean Into
when I’m craving volume (aka not feeling like myself):
A morning and evening skincare routine that feels grounding
Fresh air and walks in nature (hello, sunshine + mood boost)
Creative outlets that light me up
A clean home and decluttered closet
Keeping small promises to myself
Scheduling a mani/pedi or facial
Booking the Botox (low-dose, low-key if that’s your thing)
A monthly massage to reconnect with my body
Reading a new book just for me
Romanticizing the little moments—getting ready, playing music, lighting a candle
And yes, a haircut helps.
But a haircut alone won’t give you volume unless you give it life.
Hair only moves when you do.
Style only shines when it’s been touched with love.
If you want to feel confident, radiant, and whole—it starts with choosing yourself.
With showing up and honoring your beauty from the inside out.
So go ahead...
Start the routine.
Take the time.
Blow dry your hair.
Put on your favorite outfit.
Spray the perfume.
Make yourself feel good—just because.
Because when you take care of yourself, when you nourish the woman in the mirror, you begin to melt into your own beauty.
And that, my love, is where the magic really begins.