Entering the Gray Hair Era: What to Expect & How to Embrace it with Grace

Not long ago, a beautiful client of mine—approaching forty—sat in my chair with tears quietly building behind her eyes. She was struggling with the gray hairs that had slowly begun to appear, and I could feel how deeply it was affecting her.

She wasn’t quite ready to admit that this meant a new phase of care, a new rhythm of tending to herself. She looked at me and asked, almost in a whisper, “What can we do to stop them?”

With so much love, I gently shared the truth: those little silver strands aren’t going anywhere. But what we can do is create a routine that allows her to still feel radiant and beautiful—as she absolutely is.

She didn’t want to hear it. I could see how hard it was for her to accept this new season. She was on the edge of tears just having to say it out loud. And it broke my heart, because she’s truly stunning—inside and out. I wish we didn’t tie gray hair so tightly to aging, to loss, to fading beauty... because she is none of those things.

As we talked, she slowly began to soften. Her guard came down. We decided to ease into it—scheduling her color every six weeks. It felt like a gentle start.

And now? She comes in every four weeks, smiling, glowing, and feeling like herself again. It’s become her ritual—a moment of care, of claiming her confidence, of embracing this new chapter with grace. What she once resisted so deeply has now become part of her self-care rhythm. It’s a gentle shift—from resistance to acceptance—realizing that this is the new way she reconnects with feeling like herself again.

If you’re finding it hard to face your grays, please know: you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel emotional about it. And it’s okay to want to do something about it. If covering them helps you feel more like the woman you are inside—youthful, vibrant, alive—then honor that.

This isn’t about hiding. It’s about choosing yourself. Again and again. You deserve to feel beautiful, always.

Entering the Gray Hair Era: What to Expect & How to Embrace It with Grace

Let’s talk about something no one really prepares us for—the moment we start to notice those first few gray hairs. It might feel like a whisper at first... a tiny glint in the mirror you almost miss. But then they show up again. And again. And suddenly, you realize: this is a new season of life.

For many of us women, this can feel like a loss of youth, and it’s okay to admit that. Society has always linked beauty with being effortlessly youthful—but here’s the truth: gray hair doesn’t make you less beautiful.

What matters is how we feel about ourselves and how we choose to show up.

What to Expect When Grays Start to Come In

At first, you may notice just a few soft strands of gray—light-catching little threads that seem to appear out of nowhere. It’s easy to brush them off in the beginning. But over time, they start to show up more often, usually around the hairline or part—those delicate, front-facing areas where we tend to notice them the most.

When those grays begin to catch your eye and shift how you feel when you look in the mirror, that’s a gentle sign it might be time to start thinking about a plan. Not because anything is wrong—but because you deserve to feel your best.

This is simply a new chapter in your self-care. Gray hair is something so many of us experience, and while there’s no way to stop it completely, there are ways to care for yourself through it—with love, grace, and intention.

A New Routine: How Often to Get Your Hair Done

For those just beginning this journey, who may not be ready to dive fully into frequent upkeep, I recommend starting with a base color appointment every 8 weeks. This timing tends to feel manageable while still keeping those early grays at bay—right before they begin to affect your confidence.

As you ease into this new rhythm, you might find yourself wanting to come in a little more regularly. Many women find that every 4 to 6 weeks feels right once they settle into the routine. It’s not about perfection—it’s about feeling refreshed, polished, and like yourself.

Waiting too long can lead to that dreaded “line of demarcation” where the whites start to peek through—and let’s be real, that can start to chip away at how we feel when we look in the mirror.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about taking care of yourself in a way that makes you feel confident, polished, and beautiful.

The Honest Truth: It’s Upkeep

I won’t sugarcoat it—it is maintenance. It is a new beauty routine, and you can’t get lazy with it if you want to feel your best. Letting it go too long between appointments might save time now, but it often results in feeling frustrated later. And your confidence is worth the investment.

Many women come to me hoping to add highlights to help blend their grays—and I completely understand the desire. It feels like a softer way to ease into this new phase, to blur the contrast and maybe delay the commitment of covering them regularly.

And while highlights can help, they tend to work best for those with naturally lighter hair to begin with. Adding a few brighter pieces around the face may give the illusion of blended grays for a little while—but those roots will still grow in, and the grays will still show, no matter what shade you choose.

That’s why I always like to gently encourage my clients to choose a color they truly love. One that makes them feel confident, radiant, and beautiful—not just a shade that “blends grays.” Because let’s be honest, grays aren’t going to magically disappear.

So instead of chasing ways to hide them, let’s shift the focus to choosing a look that brings you joy and makes you feel like you. When you love your hair, you carry yourself differently—and that is what makes all the difference.

Gray hair doesn’t have to feel like defeat—it can simply be a new chapter in how you care for yourself. Think of it as a ritual: one that reminds you that you’re still worth the effort, the care, the glow-up.

You’re not alone in this, and I’m here to help you feel your most beautiful—no matter the shade.

How often to book your appointment for gray coverage:

Low Maintenance Gal : 6-8 weeks

Keeping at Bay : 5-6 weeks

Fully Polished : 3-4 weeks